We asked S.J. Maylee a few questions about writing BDSM erotica. Feel free to ask her a few of your own
At what point did you decide you wanted to write BDSM themed erotic romance?
I wasn’t compelled to write until I incorporated the dynamics of Dominance and submission into the lives of my characters. In this place of honesty, I can see my characters so clearly and get them to face their deepest desires. These are the stories that won’t leave me alone and inspire me.
Is there one area of BDSM that you tend to write about more? Why do you think that area creeps into your writing more than some others?
All of my stories have Dominance and submission. It’s an area I love to read and it naturally appears in my stories. The amount of strength and restraint a Dom must possess is breathtaking. A submissive’s role is not to be underestimated. It takes a tremendous amount of strength and bravery to give yourself to someone. It also takes a fine balance to build trust between my couples. When it happens, it’s magic.
Have you done research in BDSM to make your stories realistic?
Yes, at the beginning of my journey, I became friends with a Dom and we’ve had countless conversation about the dynamics. He helped me to understand how the safe, sane, and consensual rules aren’t just smart, but they play an essential role.
Although I write romantic fiction, I want my love stories to feel real and I recognize my responsibility with the genre and I’ve continued my studies.
What differences or difficulties, if any, do you see in writing D/s stories as opposed to your typical romance?
BDSM is a culture and needs to be respected, but I love that. I’m passionate about learning and this is an area I can really sink my teeth into. BDSM requires honesty and as a romance writer this is often where the heart of my stories are discovered. If a character is lying to themselves, they’ll certainly lie to each other. Breaking through personal barriers and finding their truth is a rewarding experience.
S.J. Maylee fell in love with storytelling at a young age and with it came a deep-seated desire for everyone to find their happily ever after. She’s finding the happy endings for her characters one steamy story at a time.
When she’s not reading or writing, you can find her caring for her garden, laughing with her two young sons, or dancing to her husband’s music. She’s a PMP (Project Management Professional), Nia instructor, and coffee addict.
As a writer she has a tendency to break hearts, but she always glues them back together.