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Rose C. Carole

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Rose C. Carole
BDSM Writers Con Book Contest Winner 2015
Golden Flogger Award nominee
Attending BDSM Writers Con since 2012

 

Why did you begin writing BDSM novels?
I’d read many BDSM novels before I even thought about writing one. It was a genre that always intrigued me. Once I decided to try my hand at it, ideas of scenes kept popping into my head, particularly when I was driving in the car. Not all of the scenes ever made it into my books, but I have definitely enjoyed the process.

Will you be attending BDSM Writers Con or other events we can meet you at?
I have been attending BDSM Writers Con since its inception as a 3-day workshop with
Dr. Charley Ferrer sitting in a hotel suite with 11 people listening to her explain the tenets of Dominance and submission. During that weekend, she also took us to Paddles, a BDSM club in NYC. There we were able to meet and talk to many people in the lifestyle. It was, to say the least, an eye-opening experience. It was after that first conference that I wrote my first BDSM erotic romance.

Each year the conference gets bigger and includes more workshops with writers and BDSM lifestylers. I have learned so much from them and made some really good friends over the years. Even as it grows, the conference engenders a supportive group of readers and writers who help one another in their understanding of BDSM. As a writer, I have been encouraged by other writers from the conference and the readers as well. I will definitely be at both the Everett and NYC conferences this year.

What does being nominated for the Golden Flogger Award mean to you?
I consider it a great honor. I know that Dr. Charley created the conference to dispel the myths and inaccuracies that were a part of a number of BDSM novels and being nominated is a recognition by the conference that I got that part right.

What is the hardest part of writing your novel?
I like to write about characters one could actually meet in real-life. As much as I love books that create fantasy worlds like the Marketplace by Laura Antoniou or the Vampire Queen series by Joey W. Hill, I am interested in exploring how we create passion and find love in day-to-day life. But that is not nearly as interesting as the rarefied worlds of fantasy, so it is difficult to take those things that people do everyday and bring a new perspective to them. I hope I’ve been successful in taking readers on a journey that allows them to see how overcoming your fears and opening yourself up to another brings back rewards far greater than you could have imagined.

Tell us a little about yourself and your writing works.
After pursuing careers in publishing and then catering, I have returned to a passion that I had when I was much younger—writing. As mentioned above, I always enjoyed reading erotic romance as well as classic literature that told great stories of people striving to fulfill their destinies and the obstacles they had to overcome. I am working on a series called Kitchen Confessions, the first book of which, Catering to His Needs, was a winner in last year’s BDSM Writers Con Book Contest and received and contract from Totally Bound publishers. The series is about four women who have a catering company, and the books can be read as standalones since each one explores the D/s relationship of one woman in the kitchen. I am currently working on the next book in that series, tentatively titled Catering to His Desires.

Rose has been an avid reader all her life and pursued that obsession into the publishing business, where she worked in both production and editorial for books and magazines. When her son went off to college, she decided to fulfill another passion and went to culinary school, thinking she would write a cookbook but loving the cooking so much she became a caterer. But her love for books is ever-present and she finally decided it was time to follow her own creative muse and write the kinds of books she enjoys reading. She hopes her readers enjoy them as well.

You can take a look at Rose’s website and follow her on Facebook and Twitter.

 

B.B. Blaque

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Join us in welcoming
BDSM Writers Con
Golden Flogger Award
nominee, erotic author B.B. Blaque as she discusses writing, romance and BDSM


What prompted you to write B.D.S.M. romance versus other genres?

I’ve written all sorts of things over the years. Most have tended toward the psychological aspect of something. I also used to own a website that chronicled my life as a 24/7 slave and was geared toward helping other submissives and slaves find their way on the path to surrender.

While reading Fifty Shades I was challenged by a friend to write it differently. I know the story is of one particular type of journey, but I felt it bastardized (like many in the community) the life I’ve come to love. This is when I detoured into writing fiction. My love for the journey and how mine has helped me grow gives me the passion to write other possible options.B.B. Blaque

What differences or difficulties do you see in writing D/s compared to another type of romance?
I’m only beginning to take my main character into the vanilla world—a place she’s never been—to learn the power of choice. I’m actually a bit nervous (happily) about this part—but am looking forward to connecting to her emotions and thoughts.  Thankfully my Master presented a song to help me see things more clearly.

I will be comparing the sameness and the differences between the two choices—so I’ll have to update this when I delve deeper.

What do you find most inspirational when writing?
Hands down the answer to this is music! When I’ve gotten stuck—it’s been due to lack of musical inspiration. Conversely—music will open my eyes and the flood gates of creativity. Music is also responsible for drawing my attention toward other characters who are begging to be written. Their soundtrack is most prevalent in my life and difficult to avoid with any real success. Soon they’ll have my undivided attention and I can’t wait!

BB_Blaque_booktrailer2Just about any music can stir something, but the most common is some genre of rock. I go for lyrical content and rhythm. I love southern rock and classic rock—it gives me the raw, gritty and sweaty back drop for my upcoming release “The Masters M.C.” (BDSM, M.C. Romance.)

I also like glam rock, funk, disco and for some strange reason….I want to see what Bread and 70’s Gold style music could call forth.

How do you feel about the heroes you write?
I fall in love with each of them and have a little separation anxiety when I have to walk away (vowing to give a few spin-offs because I enjoyed them so much!)

I write dominant men I can be passionate about–who can consume me. Each is different with his own style and method to inspire and extract her submission.??????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????

I also really like these men. I won’t write a dominant without self-control above everything else, he may have issues because he is human, but he will prevail in self discipline. They have integrity of mind and spirit and I try to make sure to bring that across. Even the most strict, or deeply alpha dominant will have a good heart. (I look forward to balancing this tightrope with the M.C. Romance. Colt & Kash will be undeniably alpha but solid men and worthy Masters.)

Are you anything like the characters you write?
Yes—to an extent. The female characters are all submissive and slaves (ultimately.) They’re all a bit rougher around the edges—tougher than I’ve ever been—which is fun to explore. There’s some of me in each of them but they’re who they are and as the stories unfold they tell me which way to take them. I’ve changed entire directions of things to make them more true to the characters’ souls and what I feel from them.

BB_Blaque_Eternally_1A personal note from B.B.:
I’ve been a life-style slave for many years and most likely submissive, in some way, for the majority of my life.

I write about transformation and the life journeys of my characters. These metamorphoses occur through love and surrender. The surrender can come from submission or from surrendering to the true self—learning to embrace one’s own personal journey (whatever it may be.)

I love BDSM (Male dominant/female submissive.) I find it fulfilling and sexy when a man wears the pants in a relationship. It’s afforded me the ability to tap into my girly side and bask in that freedom.

I’m even more interested in the psychological aspects of relationships in general and especially when there’s a power-exchange dynamic.

With this in mind I do my best to write stories with many layers and subtleties and paint from palettes I’ve seen in real world M/s relationships (including my own.)  www.bbblaque.com

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Silk Jones

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Check out what Silk Jones had to say about in our private interview and feel free to ask a few questions of your own.

 

What got you interested in writing BDSM?
I’ve always had in interest in reading erotica and I’ve always loved to write. My decision to write BDSM erotica merges those two interests. As a child, I read every book in my parents’ collection which included “The Joy of Sex” as well as novels by Harold Robbins and Sidney Sheldon. Later in life, I discovered erotica. My favorite authors in the genre included Anais Nin, Anne Rice, Henry Miller, and those Victorian spanking novels written by “Anonymous.” In recent years, I’ve read BDSM novels by Cherise Sinclair, Red Phoenix, Sadey Quinn and others and thoroughly enjoyed them. I am a novelist who writes romances under a pen name, so I decided to try my hand at BDSM erotica. I started by writing spanking erotica stories for my friends. They loved the stories and encouraged me to publish them. So, here I am.

What resources or research, if any, have you done into BDSM to make your stories realistic?
In reading BDSM erotica, I recognized some things about myself and my past relationships, so I made a decision to learn more about the BDSM lifestyle and to explore it. I joined online BDSM communities and read numerous articles, blogs, and other online resources geared toward educating novices in the lifestyle. I found an experienced Dom to mentor me. I read books about the lifestyle including but not limited to: “SM101: A Realistic Introduction” by Jay Wiseman, “The Ethical Slut – A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures” by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy, and “The New Bottoming Book” by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy. I attended munches – monthly meetings with experienced local BDSM practitioners who made presentations about various aspects of the BDSM lifestyle and BDSM practices. I also attended “Newbie Night” at a local dungeon where they demonstrated various BDSM skills, techniques, and play practices to those new to the lifestyle.

What differences or difficulties, if any, do you see in writing D/s stories as opposed to your typical romance?
In a typical romance, tried and true classic storylines are accepted, desired and even demanded to a certain extent by the average romance reader. When you write D/s stories, however, an author has to be ever vigilant about authenticity with respect to the lifestyle and avoid clichés. To achieve authenticity, you have to put yourself in the mindset or at least the point of view of a Dom, submissive, Sadist or masochist which might prove a bit difficult if you haven’t been exposed to the lifestyle or if you’re not that experienced in the areas of play about which you’re writing. How does a masochist experience or process pain stimuli? What does a Dom feel or experience when he’s flogging a submissive? Are all submissives masochists and vice versa? The answer to the last question is “no,” but if you don’t know that, you could make a mistake in your novel that might throw your reader out of the story. So writing a D/s story can take more research and more attention to detail and characterization than an average romance novel.

Why have you chosen to attend BDSM Writers Conference?
A Domme I met at an event (she sold me my very first leather paddle) commented online about what a great time she had at the 2014 BDSM Writers Conference and added a link to the conference website. I clicked on the link and was very happy about what I read. The conference seemed tailor made for me. I can interact with my readers, find new ones, get new ideas, learn more about BDSM, and have tons of fun at the same conference. Sounds like the perfect weekend to me.silk jones, BDSM Writers Con, Charley Ferrer, spanking, fetishes, kink

Silk Jones has always been a lover of all things sexy. Silk writes erotica, erotic romance and erotic poetry. Although she has written several erotic spanking stories to entertain her friends, “The Interview: Law Firm Erotica Book I” is her first foray into the publishing world.

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Tori Carson

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Tori Carson shares her thoughts and stories with us

 

Tori, where did you find the inspiration for writing your first BDSM romance story, Bondage Anniversary?
My husband and I had been in a D/s relationship for many years when Fifty Shades of Gray became such a sensation. I was amazed at the phenomena the trilogy caused. The media ran articles on the FSOG baby boom and so forth. I wondered what would happen if a husband discovered his wife’s secret interest in BDSM and how that would change their relationship.

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They say to write what you know and I took that advice to heart. While my books are completely fictional, I try to draw from real life experiences as much as possible. Do all your stories have a happy ending?
Definitely. My husband and I met in high school and no one gave our love much of a chance. Thirty years later we are more in love today than ever before. I wish everyone could find their happily ever after and I wouldn’t accept anything less for my characters.<

How can readers learn more about your books?
I have two D/s romance series currently available. The Desired Discipline series is published through Totally Bound and is available both digitalTori Carson, BDSM, bondage, fetishes BDSM Writers Conly and in paperback. The Master’s touch series is published through Ellora’s Cave and is available digitally.

Tori lives in the beautiful Sonoran Desert with her loving husband of almost thirty years. She wakes up each morning to the howls of coyotes and the barking of her family dogs wanting to join the fray.

When Tori isn’t writing, she’s either spending time with her two, wonderful adult children, or creating stained glass art.

She likes her love stories scorching hot. She tries to infuse a fire and passion between her characters that rivals the blazing summer sun that Arizona is known for. Tori encourages you to bask in the heat between the covers of a Dominant/submissive, happily-ever-after, bondage romance.

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L.M. Somerton

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Join us as we interview L.M. Somerton.

 

What qualifies you to write BDSM?
I am lucky enough to be a previous winner of the Pauline Reage novel award from the National Leather Association: International. The NLA:I is a leading organization for activists in the pansexual SM/leather community and their annual awards are given for excellence in literary works in SM/leather/fetish writing.

It wasn’t until I entered the awards that I researched a little about Pauline Reage. Fifty years ago, an extraordinary pornographic novel appeared in Paris. Story of O is described by British journalist John de St Jorre as portraying “explicit scenes of bondage and violent penetration in spare, elegant prose, the purity of the writing making the novel seem reticent even as it dealt with demonic desire, wLM Somerton, BDSM Writers, BDSM romance, fetishes ith whips, masks and chains.”

I can only imagine the reaction seventy years ago to such work. Pauline Reage, the author, was a pseudonym, and was thought by many to have been a man. The writer’s true identity was only revealed in the 1990’s when intellectual Dominique Aury (born Anne Desclos) acknowledged that the fantasies in the Story of O were hers.

I am often asked what qualifies me to write MM BDSM. I think Pauline Reage helps to answer that question. It doesn’t matter what you look like on the outside, however demure and academic you might appear, there is no such thing as being ‘qualified’. As Pauline Reage recognized, the power of sex makes compelling reading and if I can get even a little of that power on to a page, I’ll be happy.

Can you tell us about your writing process; for example, do you write an outline first?
I carry a notepad around to scribble down plot ideas when they strike me. I rough out a plot line but don’t plan too rigidly because sometimes the story takes its own direction, but I usually have a firm ending in mind. I often write scenes several times before I’m happy with them and as a result, I’m painfully slow.

LM Somerton, BDSM Writers, BDSM romance, fetishes Would you change anything in your life to make writing easier?
Give up the evil day job. Definitely. And persuade the cat that my laptop is not his bed.

Do you write one novel at a time or do you move between works in progress?
I usually have two or three stories on the go and write where the mood takes me.

What motivates you to write?
It’s my relaxation and addiction. If I have a few spare minutes I can’t resist tapping out a few lines.

 

L M Somerton lives in a small village in the English countryside, LM Somerton, BDSM Writers, BDSM romance, fetishes surrounded by rolling hills, cows and sheep. She started writing to fill time between jobs and is now firmly and unashamedly addicted.

She loves the English weather, especially the rain, and adores a thunderstorm. She loves good food, warm company and a crackling fire. She’s fascinated by the psychology of relationships, especially between men, and her stories contain some subtle (and not so subtle) leanings towards BDSM.

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Laura Antoniou

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Laura Antonious  talks frankly about BDSM and the vast misconceptions most individuals have about those who embrace this erotic lifestyle.

Feel free to pose a few of your own questions for her below.

What is your aim when it comes to writing about BDSM? What do you hope people get out of reading your books?
I want to write a good story, and I hope readers get a ripping good read! I hope they enjoy the characters and the trouble they get into and the emotional and philosophical decisions they have to make. And I hope they like the fantasy world I created and enjoy imagining what it would be like to adventure in a world like that, whether they like the idea of being served or serving or just being the occasional bystander.

What are some popular misconceptions about people who participate in BDSM?
That we’re intrinsically or situationally damaged – either we’re born injured or handicapped or cursed by these desires, or that we are made kinky by bad experiences. Sadly, Fifty Shades of GreyLaura Antoniou, BDSM Writers Con, fetishes, bondage, Charley Ferrer does support the “only damaged people do SM” meme. But studies within the scene have revealed we are no more or less likely to be emotionally challenged or disabled than the rest of the human population. Which is sad because I really wanted the study to show we’re more creative, saner and smarter. Ahh, well.

What about this idea that you have to be damaged in some way to like it: do you think that’s true?
See the above question. That some kinky people have had bad sexual or emotional experiences only reflects that MANY people experience these things. Frankly, it’s very hard to admit past abuse issues when you’re into SM, because so many people leap to the conclusion, “Oh, that’s why you like to be tied up! Your father called you stupid when you were seven!” It’s nonsense. You might as well conclude that people like to play football because they drank milk as babies. Correlation does not imply causation. There are far too many variables.

But because so many people have experienced some form of abuse or neglect, they can sometimes find a sense of power and security in enacting consensual dramas as adults. They might not want to relive past pain, but instead find ways to create greater trust and intimacy by sharing what scared or hurt them and finding ways for their lovers to help them to feel safe, or powerful, cherished and respected. And there is nothing more empowering to a past abuse survivor than the feeling of negotiating exactly what they want and getting it, completely able to stop anything that isn’t working. It’s not therapy – people who need professional help should get it. But it can be very rewarding and pleasurable.

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What about the 50 Shades of Grey phenomenon? Is it good that more people know about BDSM through that, or does it paint a very misguided view of BDSM by perpetuating that only those who are damaged in some way will enjoy it?
The main thing people need to realize about Fifty Shades of Grey is that it’s a romance. This is not a portrayal of the modern BDSM scene any more than a romance book about a sexy doctor is about the National Health Service. In fact, the kinky scene doesn’t even exist in those books – other than the damaged romantic hero commenting that she’d be amazed at what she could find on the internet, and suggesting Wikipedia for her research purposes. And this in Seattle, one of the most influential cities for the BDSM community in the US!

Don’t get me started.

Anyway! Most people who read those books have zero interest in doing anything kinky. They are romance readers! They read for escapism, not life modeling. If romance readers read and then ran out to find what they read about, the beaches and docks would be full of women waiting to be picked up by pirates.

And the damaged hero is nothing more than part of the standard romantic trope of “virginal woman secures the love of a bad boy through her virtue.” He is only bad because he had a dark past. Poor, poor billionaire Christian, with the 6-pack abs and the concert-level piano skills, flying his personal helicopter and buying his girlfriend cars and homes! He was abused and neglected as a child, and therefore beats women who look like his mum. But in the end, true love redeems him, and the kinky sex, which he once used to distance himself from women, becomes merely another way he and his wife – and mother of his children – can enjoy their frequent and mutually satisfying sex life. And they live happily ever after, assuming no more of his former girlfriends come after them with guns.
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This is not good for people like me, who aren’t much into romance novels. But it means almost nothing to people who actually have kinky sex. Sure, a few people will read the books, goggle a few terms, and unlike Anastasia, they will find us! And some of them will come out, buy a sex toy, attend a workshop or a party, maybe even buy one of my books. And of them, a few will stay for a while. But we’re talking very small numbers.

The big change – the one that will count – is how many people will begin to see just how unthreatening the BDSM scene really is. Because right now, all over the world, people are telling their friends and family, “Oh, what I do is sort of like what’s in those books you just read in your book club. But without the stalking and we don’t use zip ties for bondage because they hurt too much.” And their friends are thinking, “Well, sheesh, what’s the big deal then?”

And that is all to the better. People will feel safer “coming out” as kinky when they know their grandma has those books on a shelf. And it will be harder to paint us as rare, dangerous deviants when everyone knows mum has those books on her kindle.

How does a book like 50 Shades differ from one of your books?
I do not write romances. My books are not about one couple, fated to get together and stay together forever in domestic bliss. Mine are about a larger cast of characters, with only a few staying from book to book – it’s more in the style of an old fashioned family saga. The setting is what matters, plus a few core characters and their arcs. There are romantic aspects to my books, but no happily ever afters. Just an occasional “happy for now.”

I also write for an audience that is more aware of sexuality and BDSM. Frankly, I find many of the sexual depictions in 50 Shades to be misleading at best or dangerous at worst. Hopefully, the type of people who look to fiction to teach them how to have sex have better examples to learn from. Of course anyone who thinks fiction is any way to learn anything is already operating from a handicap. You might as well read a Star Trek novel to learn jet propulsion.
Laura Antoniou’s publishing career began when she started writing gay men’s smut to promote safer sex practices during the early 90’s. Emboldened by getting paid to do this, she then edited the groundbreaking “Leatherwomen” series, highlighting tales of kinky women. This was rapidly followed by half a dozen other anthologies and the Marketplace series of erotic BDSM novels BDSM Writers Con, Laura Antoniou, Fetishes, kink, BDSM, Charley Ferrer which never reached the sales level of the 50 Shades books, but she’s not bitter. Instead, she wrote the 6th, titled The Inheritor, due to come out in 2015.

In 2013, Laura turned her mind to mysteries and came out with the Rainbow Book Award for Best LGBT Mystery, The Killer Wore Leather. Now that she has achieved almost mainstream success with it, she plans a sequel, to be released via Cleis Press. She is also the editor for Best Lesbian Erotica 2015 and is planning many other writing and editing projects in order to fulfill a lifelong dream of actually making a living on this sort of thing. Follow her on Facebook and Twitter or check her out at www.lantoniou.com

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Roz Lee

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Join us in welcoming Roz Lee. We had a few questions for Roz to help us get to know her better. Feel free to pose a few of your own below.

 

When you first started writing, what made you decide to write a novel?
Honestly? I never set out to be a writer, so it never occurred to me that I could write something else. I was a stay at home mom and an avid reader of romance. My daughters joked that I had read so many I could probably write my own. I took that as a challenge—and guess what? I found out that I could write one!

What research, if any, have you done into BDSM to make your stories realistic?
I’ve always been interested in the psychology of why people do what they do, so when I began doing research for writing sex scenes (yes, there is research involved!) my initial inquiries began with psychological texts. Not particularly fun, but interesting in a geeky sort of way. From there, I read non-fiction books on the lifestyle, and of course,
Dr. Charley’s book which is specifically for writers. That led me to virtual research via the internet. It’s truly amazing what you can find online. (When I die, please, someone erase my search history!)

Finally, I read every fiction book I could find that dealt with the lifestyle—everything from The Story of O and the Marquis de Sade to Anne Rice—and of course, I read contemporary romances too, since that was what I intended to write. Yes, I’m a geek. I admit it.

What differences or difficulties, if any, do you see in writing BDSM stories as opposed to your typical romance?
Everyone understands the basic human urge to have sex. That requires no explanation in a romance novel. However, not everyone understands the kinkier side of human sexuality. You can’t have your character whip out a flogger and go to town on another character without some explanation of why either one would be okay with that.

You don’t have to convert the reader to the lifestyle, but you have to convince them your character’s needs are valid and essential to their pleasure and happiness. If you can’t convince them of that, then you’ve lost them completely.

Roz Lee, BDSM Writers Con, kink, eroticaIf you weren’t a writer, what would you be?
I’d be a Science teacher. I love science so you would think I’d write in the paranormal, sci-fi or even steampunk genres, wouldn’t you? LOL I’d probably get lost in the research and forget to write, so I’ll leave that to others.

Award winning author Roz Lee has penned over a dozen erotic romances. The first, The Lust Boat, was born of an idea acquired while on a Caribbean cruise with her family and soon blossomed into a five book series published by Red Sage. Following her love of baseball, she turned her attention to sexy athletes in tight pants, writing the critically acclaimed Mustangs Baseball series. When Roz isn’t writing, she’s reading, or traipsing around the country on one adventure or another. No trip is too small, no tourist trap too cheesy, and no road unworthy of travel.

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Roz Lee was one of the Featured Authors of BDSM Writers Con 2014 and is returning for
BDSM Writers Con 2015

 

 

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Alex Tempera

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Here are a few questions we had for Alex Tempera

 

 

What got you interested in writing BDSM?
I like writing a variety of genres to challenge myself.  I was inspired by the work of author Caethes Faron. She does not write BDSM but her work inspired me to attempt to write erotica. The minute I decided to try that, I knew I should involve BDSM as a sub-genre. It just seemed to fit the story I wanted to write.

What research have you done in regards to learning about BDSM and the lifestyle?
My friend, whom I have known for over 18 years, is a Dom and engaged to his submissive. I always knew about his lifestyle, which for years he kept hidden from most people, but always talked to it about me because he knew I would never judge him. I jetted him an email and asked if he would mind answering some questions. I told him what I wanted to do and he answered everything and gave me more information, such as websites like social media sites for those involved in the lifestyle. (not sure if I should list the site or not, but it’s fetlife.com)

Do you only write BDSM stories or have you ventured into other Alex Tempera, BDSM Writers, bondage, bdsm romance, kink, fetishesfacets of erotica and romance?
I have written three books (2 of them not yet published) that have to do with BDSM and the lifestyle. I have also written a m/m erotica romance that does not have any BDSM within the storyline.

Do you think there is a difference between a BDSM romance versus a regular romance?
I think there are differences in the way the romance versus erotica stories are told because of how much detail and the language used, especially when describing sexual situations. In BDSM, it is not always about sex and romance, but the bond between the dominant and submissive. In my book, “Waiting for Superman”, the bond between the main character, Kylie (who was a submissive) and her late-husband, Ian, who was also her Master is still strong. The bonds and power between the two can be very strong if it’s there. If there is no sense of bond, the D/s relationship will not work.

Any current projects or series in connection with released books? Waiting for Superman does have a sequel, but it is too early to release it. Waiting for Superman does NOT have a cliffhanger ending. The sequel picks up a year later and it’s called “club Olympus”.

Do you have any personal experience in the lifestyle?
In doing my research, I found a deeper interest into the lifestyle and Alex Tempera, BDSM Writers, bondage, power exchange, master slave, fetishesnow, I do have my own submissive.

Alex Tempera is the alter ego of author Amy Shannon. In the quest for a new genre, Amy transformed into Alex to create a new depth of erotica and romance novels. The beauty of a well written erotica novel is that is contains a thoughtful and romantic storyline as well as beautifully written intimate scenes. Alex’s research into erotica genres, BDSM play and the lifestyle will continue to enter into her stories. Alex’s stories do not just revolve around romance sex, but there is always some form of conflict that allows the lovers to realize that they are meant for each other.
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Cara Downey

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Join me in welcoming a new author,
Cara Downey as she debuts her kinky erotic poetry.

 

 

Why did you choose to write about BDSM?
I chose to write about BDSM, because it is important to me. There is a lot of misunderstanding about the lifestyle. So I wanted to write about how beautiful the lifestyle is and how deep the connection is between two people who live the life.

Who was your inspiration and contributed to your decision to take the plunge and publish your work?
My inspiration to write came from authors like Maya Banks and Beth Kery, to name a few.

Do you have plans to write a full length Cara Downey, BDSM Writers, erotic poetry, bondage, kinknovel?
Yes, I do plan to write a full length novel at some point. Right now I am working on my next collection of poetry.

Why BDSM?
Why not BDSM??? BDSM is a deep connection between two people, who have amplified their love for one another. There is misconception and a negative view surrounding BDSM. With books like “Fifty Shades of Grey” etc…BDSM is now on the front burner. My hope is that my writing shows readers how amazing, how beautiful, and how fulfilling the lifestyle is… especially with the right person.

 
 
Cara Downey is from North Preston, Dartmouth Nova Scotia in Canada. She is an avid reader of erotic romances and thrillers. She loves to dish on twitter and via email with her favorite authors about their current and up coming novels. She loves to interact with readers on Facebook and Twitter. You can always find Cara on twitter @cara_downey and Facebook… just type in Cara Downey.

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BDSM Writers Con, Doctor Charley Ferrer, kink, fetishes, bondage, BDSM education, dominance and submissionAuthor participant at BDSM Writers Con 2014

Desiree Holt

Desiree Holt
Desiree Holt

 

A writer’s journey

through the BDSM Lifestyle

I can’t tell you how many times people ask me why so many of my books involve the BDSM lifestyle. I don’t think the answers I give them are quite what they are looking for. No, I was never in the lifestyle—exactly (damn it!). And I have limited personal experience. In fact, I knew very little about it when it first captured my attention. In 2006 I was fortunate enough to read two books by the incredible Joey W. Hill—The Ice Queen and Mirror of My Soul. I was a fledgling author at the time but I thought to myself that this—this!—was the kind of book I wanted to write.

I began to research the subject, primarily on the Internet, and discovered a number of places where I could interact with people. Among them is Fetlife, where I found that as long as I was upfront with people about who I was and what I wanted, most people were great about answering my questions.

I was amazed at the things I discovered!

First and foremost is a very important truth about a D/s relationship—it’s the only one built completely on trust. In no other situation does one partner have to place one hundred percent trust in the other to make it work. D/s is about a lot more than the pain, the punishment, the submission. It’s about an exchange of power where each partner is willing to strip himself or herself bare for the other and believe that trust will not be abused.

That’s a powerful, powerful situation.

So when I began including BDSM in my books I focused on that aspect of the lifestyle. My Ellora’s Cave book, Rodeo Heat (which won The Romance Studio Award for Best BDSM Book of the Year), seemed the perfect place to launch this new phase of my writing. Grace, my heroine, is 42. She’s been a widow for 20 years. Her entire life has been in emotional lockdown as she raised her children and made a career for herself. Ben is ten years younger chronologically but years older emotionally. As a rodeo rider he’s lived a hard life. Grace touches him in a place he’s never opened to anyone before. He is also a dedicated Dom.

When he takes Grace on her journey of sexual awakening, he introduces her to the D/s lifestyle, one aspect at a time. And as Grace learns to trust him, whether he’s spanking her or feeding her with his hands, she is shocked to discover the fulfillment in domination. By the end of the book it is the firm foundation on which their future is built. You’ll find this same theme repeated in all my books built around BDSM.

I was curious about all aspects of a D/s relationship. How do you separate the good from the bad? Last year when I visited a local dungeon I was able to ask a lot of questions about that and the risks involved for a neophyte. The Doms in attendance were totally honest with me and freely answered all my questions. The material I gathered became the framework for a story about an initiated sub who is introduced to the lifestyle by a man who is essentially cruel. Not a true Dom.

Dangerous Addiction, a short Ellora’s Cave novella, is about a woman who was seduced into the lifestyle by a man who was both power-hungry and cruel. Not representative of an appropriate Dom at all. Did not believe in the power exchange and abused the trust of the neophyte sub. Trapped in the web he weaves for her, she is freed only with the help of a friend who sees the relationship as pure emotional abuse. She meets another Dom—experienced, loving, caring—all the things a Dom should be—and tentatively begins a relationship with him, although her prior situation still haunts her.

My wonderful editor, Kelli Collins, urged me to write a sequel to this, so early in 2014 EC will release the full-length Beyond Addiction. This book, with a great deal of input from the local BDSM community, explores all sides of a BDSM partnership. What each level means. The stimulation of pain and the pleasure of punishment when it’s administered properly. The willingness to submit when the sub understands the Dom\me truly cares for him\her.

In this book my heroine is thrown back into contact with the original Dom and is forced to take risks to fight the sick addiction to him she still feels. The book is often harsh because it shows what happens when the dominant partner ignores or refuses to acknowledge the cardinal rule: SSC—Safe, Sane, and Consensual.

Submission is a gift and should be appreciated.

In Beyond Addiction, Fallon, my heroine, is finally able to realize how unhealthy and brutal the situation really is. And what a good, loving D/s relationship is. She finally makes a conscious choice to reach out to the Dom who loves her.

Not everyone begins living the life at an early age. Many come to it later in life. I often worry that people who read about BDSM in my books will develop false illusions about the lifestyle and find themselves in dangerous situations. I wrote this book to show what can happen in a situation like that and to urge them to make the proper choices.

I want my readers to understand that BDSM is a complicated lifestyle, whether you enjoy it for an hour of playtime or as a routine for life. The emotion is intense, communication is essential, and respect is key. If you understand that, this is an extremely rewarding adventure.

Will I continue to write more about this? Absolutely. And I will continue to study it so I can bring you a true picture of it. I hope you’ll join me for the journey my many characters take.

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