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Desiree Holt

Desiree Holt
Desiree Holt

 

A writer’s journey

through the BDSM Lifestyle

I can’t tell you how many times people ask me why so many of my books involve the BDSM lifestyle. I don’t think the answers I give them are quite what they are looking for. No, I was never in the lifestyle—exactly (damn it!). And I have limited personal experience. In fact, I knew very little about it when it first captured my attention. In 2006 I was fortunate enough to read two books by the incredible Joey W. Hill—The Ice Queen and Mirror of My Soul. I was a fledgling author at the time but I thought to myself that this—this!—was the kind of book I wanted to write.

I began to research the subject, primarily on the Internet, and discovered a number of places where I could interact with people. Among them is Fetlife, where I found that as long as I was upfront with people about who I was and what I wanted, most people were great about answering my questions.

I was amazed at the things I discovered!

First and foremost is a very important truth about a D/s relationship—it’s the only one built completely on trust. In no other situation does one partner have to place one hundred percent trust in the other to make it work. D/s is about a lot more than the pain, the punishment, the submission. It’s about an exchange of power where each partner is willing to strip himself or herself bare for the other and believe that trust will not be abused.

That’s a powerful, powerful situation.

So when I began including BDSM in my books I focused on that aspect of the lifestyle. My Ellora’s Cave book, Rodeo Heat (which won The Romance Studio Award for Best BDSM Book of the Year), seemed the perfect place to launch this new phase of my writing. Grace, my heroine, is 42. She’s been a widow for 20 years. Her entire life has been in emotional lockdown as she raised her children and made a career for herself. Ben is ten years younger chronologically but years older emotionally. As a rodeo rider he’s lived a hard life. Grace touches him in a place he’s never opened to anyone before. He is also a dedicated Dom.

When he takes Grace on her journey of sexual awakening, he introduces her to the D/s lifestyle, one aspect at a time. And as Grace learns to trust him, whether he’s spanking her or feeding her with his hands, she is shocked to discover the fulfillment in domination. By the end of the book it is the firm foundation on which their future is built. You’ll find this same theme repeated in all my books built around BDSM.

I was curious about all aspects of a D/s relationship. How do you separate the good from the bad? Last year when I visited a local dungeon I was able to ask a lot of questions about that and the risks involved for a neophyte. The Doms in attendance were totally honest with me and freely answered all my questions. The material I gathered became the framework for a story about an initiated sub who is introduced to the lifestyle by a man who is essentially cruel. Not a true Dom.

Dangerous Addiction, a short Ellora’s Cave novella, is about a woman who was seduced into the lifestyle by a man who was both power-hungry and cruel. Not representative of an appropriate Dom at all. Did not believe in the power exchange and abused the trust of the neophyte sub. Trapped in the web he weaves for her, she is freed only with the help of a friend who sees the relationship as pure emotional abuse. She meets another Dom—experienced, loving, caring—all the things a Dom should be—and tentatively begins a relationship with him, although her prior situation still haunts her.

My wonderful editor, Kelli Collins, urged me to write a sequel to this, so early in 2014 EC will release the full-length Beyond Addiction. This book, with a great deal of input from the local BDSM community, explores all sides of a BDSM partnership. What each level means. The stimulation of pain and the pleasure of punishment when it’s administered properly. The willingness to submit when the sub understands the Dom\me truly cares for him\her.

In this book my heroine is thrown back into contact with the original Dom and is forced to take risks to fight the sick addiction to him she still feels. The book is often harsh because it shows what happens when the dominant partner ignores or refuses to acknowledge the cardinal rule: SSC—Safe, Sane, and Consensual.

Submission is a gift and should be appreciated.

In Beyond Addiction, Fallon, my heroine, is finally able to realize how unhealthy and brutal the situation really is. And what a good, loving D/s relationship is. She finally makes a conscious choice to reach out to the Dom who loves her.

Not everyone begins living the life at an early age. Many come to it later in life. I often worry that people who read about BDSM in my books will develop false illusions about the lifestyle and find themselves in dangerous situations. I wrote this book to show what can happen in a situation like that and to urge them to make the proper choices.

I want my readers to understand that BDSM is a complicated lifestyle, whether you enjoy it for an hour of playtime or as a routine for life. The emotion is intense, communication is essential, and respect is key. If you understand that, this is an extremely rewarding adventure.

Will I continue to write more about this? Absolutely. And I will continue to study it so I can bring you a true picture of it. I hope you’ll join me for the journey my many characters take.

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Jan Graham

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 Join us as we interview Jan Graham. Below are a few questions we had for her. I’m sure you have a few of your own. Feel free to ask her anything.

 

What sort of books do you write? I write contemporary erotic romance and erotic romantic suspense with elements of BDSM incorporated into the storyline.jan graham, BDSM Writers, fetishes, kink, BDSM romance

Why did you choose to write erotic romance?The choice was a natural one for me. I like to read erotic romance, so I chose to write what I like to read

Do you practice BDSM or just write about it? I’ve been a member of the kink community for over 15 years now, so including aspect of the lifestyle in my writing is something I love to do. I love showing readers that kink can be part of a “normal” persons everyday life.

Jan Graham, BDSM Writers, BDSM romance, fetishes, spanking, kink, boondageDo you fall in love with the characters you write?Just like in real life, it often starts with falling in lust with my characters (mostly the male ones) and then moves to love. I have also been known to fall in love with my villains. I know, I know, they’re the bad guys. *slaps wrist*

 

Jan Graham describes herself in many ways. She is a full time writer, friend, submissive, orphan, widow, aunt, and sometimes, a wild child. Despite any hiccups the universe may throw at her, she believes in experiencing everything life has to offer and being the best person Jan Graham, BDSM Writers, Bondage, kink, BDSM romanceshe can be. Jan lives in Newcastle, Australia, where she spends her time writing erotic romance. Her writing falls under a variety of genres including BDSM, contemporary romance, romantic suspense and paranormal romance. Jan has often been quoted as saying:”I am glad to finally give the characters that swirl around my head on a constant basis, the opportunity to put themselves down on paper and I hope they entertain my readers as much as they amuse me.”

 

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Suzy Shearer

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Join us in welcoming
Suzy Shearer a BDSM author from Down Under.  Check out what she has to say about how she got started and her upcoming releases.

 

 
When and how did you start writing?
I had written the opening for a book about 6 years ago then put it aside. Last year, I was fiddling on my computer and found it. I expanded it, gave it to a few friends to read and when they told me it was good I submitted it to a publisher.Suzy Shearer, BDSM Writers, bondage, kink, bdsm romance

I was over the moon when they accepted it and have not looked back since. I have three books out now and four more due for release over the next few months.

Why erotic romance?
I discovered when I started writing that my descriptions were very graphic and explicit. In my youth, I had dabbled a little in bondage/waxplay/flogging, so I seemed to gravitate toward BDSM. I always think that women prefer to read ‘porn’ while men would rather watch it so my books are filled with enough heat to keep my readers in lust!

Do you concentrate on one book at a time?
Never!  Sometimes you get stalled and I generally turn to another book when that happens. At the moment, I have five books demanding I write more on them and lots more clamouring for me to start.

What wouldSuzy Shearer, bdsm romance, fetishes, bondage, BDSM Writers surprise people to know about you?
I imagine most would be surprised to learn I am an introvert and a recluse. When I do venture out, I think most people are surprised to see a woman my age with tattoos and crazy colored hair.

Did you always want to be a writer?
No. My first love has always been Art. I have been painting since I was around 8 and since 2000 have done it full-time.

Suzy is single and lives in Sydney Australia’s Western Suburbs with one very spoiled dog and two equally spoiled cats to keep her company. Her books always feature older heroes and heroSuzy Shearer, bondage, BDSM Writers, fetishes, bdsm romanceines; ranging from mid 40s to 60s. She believes that being older does not mean we are not intriguing, desirable, open to challenges or willing to experiment. Sexy isn’t just for the under 30s! When she is not writing, she is painting. An accomplished Artist, her passion is watercolors and her subject matter ranges from portraits and animals to nudes and seascapes. Oh yes … she also has a penchant for crazy colored hair – pinks, purples and even rainbowed – and for tattoos!

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Daisy Philips

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Meet author, Daisy Philips.

Below are a few questions we had for her. Feel free to ask a few of your own.

 

 

How did you start writing? 
I’ve always been an avid reader and the advent of the eReader has just fed on my addiction.  Like many readers, I always wanted to try my hand at writing, but the idea of plotting a 70-80,000 word book was intimidating, especially with my demanding day job.  When I realized that ePublishers accepted 20,000 word books, I finally gave it a try, and 20+ books later, I’m still writing.

Why BDSM books?
That’s hard to say.  Something about the books I read featuring BDSM just called to me.  I love the interaction and the communication and the trust it required.  And BDSM ménages are really hot.  🙂

What do you Daisy Philips 1like to do besides write?
I love to travel.  I’ve visited over 20 countries including Egypt, Kenya and Thailand.  My absolute favorite holiday was the two weeks I spent in Northern Thailand as a Volunteer Elephant Helper and Elephant Nature Park.  I also enjoy photography and have even had a photo used by MTV.

What’s coming up?
I currently am writing books 4 & 5 for my Dave & Lida series. Dave and Lida were high school sweethearts.  They are now in their mid 30s with 3 children and have decided to put the excitement back in their marriage with a little BDSM role play.

What names do you write under?
Diane & Daisy.  As Diane Leyne, I write exclusively for Siren/Bookstrand.  As Daisy Philips, I write for Evernight Publishing and hope some day soon to self publish.

Daisy Philips was born in a small town in Nova Scotia and grew up in Toronto where she still lives. She loves to travel (visited 20 countries and counting) and photography. She likes writing books with the kind of strong heroines she enjoys reading about. She currently have four series as Diane Leyne (3 BDSM: Club Libertine, Libertine Island and Satisfaction Texas and 1 paranormal: Call of the Wolf). And one book as Daisy Philips:  Dave & Lida.

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Diane Leyne

Diane Leyne, BDSM Writers, Kink, fetishes, Doctor Charley FerrerDiane Leyne has been writing BDSM romance for some time and we wanted to ask a few questions of her. We’re you’re you’ll have your own.

 

How did you start writing? 
I’ve always been an avid reader and the advent of the eReader has just fed on my addiction. Like many readers, I always wanted to try my hand at Diane Leyne 1 Dom Switch Subwriting, but the idea of plotting a 70-80,000 word book was intimidating, especially with my demanding day job.  When I realized that ePublishers accepted 20,000 word books, I finally gave it a try, and 20+ books later, I’m still writing.

Why BDSM books?  That’s hard to say.  Something about the books I read featuring BDSM just called to me. I love the interaction and the communication and the trust it required. And BDSM ménages are really hot.

What do you like to do besides write?  I love travel.  I’ve visited over 20 countries including Egypt, Kenya and Thailand.  My absolute favourite holiday was the two weeks I spent in Northern Thailand as a Volunteer Elephant Helper and Elephant Nature Park.  I also enjoy photography and have even had a photo used by MTV.

WhatDiane Leyne, BDSM Writers, kink, BDSM romance ‘s coming up? 
I have two series with 5 books each (Satisfaction Texas and Libertine Island) and I’m working on the idea for a cross over.  Hopefully I’ll finish it in June and you’ll be able to pick it by in August or September.

 

Diane Leyne was born in a small town in Nova Scotia and grew up in Toronto where she still lives. She loves travel (visited 20 countries and counting) and photography. She likes writing books with the kind of strong heroines she likes reading about. She currently have four series as Diane Leyne (three BDSM:  Club Libertine, Libertine Island and Satisfaction Texas and one paranormal:  Call of the Wolf) and one as Daisy Philips: Dave & Lida. 
 
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Marie Tuhart

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Below are a few questions to help you get to know author, Marie Tuhart. Please feel free to ask her a few of your own.

 

Why do you write erotic romance?
I’d been writing romance for a while, but I was finding it hard to have my alpha male heroes fit into some of the traditional romance roles. I’d take a class with an erotic romance author and found that I liked writing the spicier stuff. So I wrote my first erotic romance, it was years before it was published. And I do stay a little more toward the lighter side of BDSM, but I’m evolving as an author.

How did you come up for the idea for the Quick Silver Ranch series?
Marie Tuhart, BDSM Writers Con, Doctor Charley Ferrer, cowboy romance, erotica, kink It was just one of those story lines that evolved from me just sitting and pondering what I was going to write. I’d just signed a contract with The Wild Rose Press when they put out a call for books in a new line called “Cowboy Kink”. It wasn’t until several months later, after I finished the book under contract that I started to think about writing for “Cowboy Kink”.

I wanted something unique and different and thought about a ranch, but instead of a normal dude ranch, this one would be for consenting couples who are trying to spice up their love life with some kink. Quick Silver Ranch was born, a place for couples to take classes and explore their sexual lives. Originally there was just the first book: Roped & Ready, but my editor and senior editor asked me to write Jared’s story, which I did, and Saddle Up was born. I had lots of fun with both books.

Which characters have been the hardest to write?
That’s a hard one. Vicki, in In Plain Sight, was pretty difficult, I think because she was my first heroine to explore her kinky side.

Jared, in Saddle Up, was by far my hardest hero. I wanted him to be one way and he fought me after about 14,000 words I finally figured out who he was (why don’t men like to talk) and I had to throw out most of what I’d written and start all over.

Marie Tuhart, romance, BDSM Writers Con, Doctor Charley Ferrer, kink Which characters have been the easiest to write?
Most of them. So far, Kasim, from Claimed by the Sheikh (Sybarite Seductions) he knew what he wanted and went after it. Although most my hero’s do.

As for my heroines, Cassie from His For The Weekend (The Wild Rose Press) was the most complicated to write, but also the easiest because I knew her story well.

What’s next?
Well, hopefully this year I’ll have several books. Claimed by the Sheikh (Sybarite Seductions) will be out this fall. I have The Red Club Project (The Wild Rose Press) in progress now. Then there’s Movie Magic (Sybarite Seductions) which has a character from Silver Screen Dom (Romancing the Stars – Sybarite Seductions), plus I have others planned to come out from The Wild Rose Press this year.Marie Tuhart, BDSM Writers Con, erotic romance, Doctor Charley Ferrer

Marie Tuhart can’t remember a time when she didn’t like to make things up. Her overactive imagination comes in hand as an authors. At the age of sixteen she wrote her first short story and never looked back. At nineteen she wrote her first novel. Now she’s a published author of seven novels and 3 short stories. Born and raised in California, after 30 years in the corporate world she retired and moved to the Pacific Northwest to write full time. When not writing Marie loves to read, travel, and spend time with her family. Marie currently writes for The Wild Rose Press and Sybarite Seductions. Marie is an Amazon bestselling author

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Marie Tuhart, Featured Author during BDSM Writers Con 2014

Susan Arden

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We had a few questions for Susan Arden. I’m sure you may have a few of your own.

 

Where is your interest drawn from to write romance?
The potent expression of love and resulting tension are volatile. Driven. The result captivates my imagination more so than any other plot point.Susan Arden, BDSM Writers Con, bondage, BDSM erotica, BDSM romance, Charley Ferrer

How do you define love?
The ultimate expression experienced between two, yet allows each to thrive to their fullest potential as individuals.

Why the interest in erotic romance?
As a past teacher of biology, the body has always hooked my desire to learn and consider. Becoming a yoga teacher, proxemics enthralled me and sensuality is a natural expression encompassing body, mind, and spirit.

When does one of your story’s take root?
As soon as I can imagine two individuals and their force of attraction and what is holding them apart.

Susan Arden Susan Arden 2grew up in Miami, attending bilingual schools which lends itself to her interest in writing multicultural stories. Previously a teacher in the field of special education and biology, she now writes romance fiction with several best sellers on Amazon. The type of books Susan writes: erotic romance within subgenres including contemporary, Western, fantasy/paranormal, and new adult fiction. She lives in TN with her husband and several pets (furry to scaled), and is also a mother to three college students. After having neurosurgery and complications, Susan found pain relief in yoga. So much she became an RYT200 (Yoga Alliance), specializing in vinyasa flow for those with health concerns.  Catch Susan at: susanarden.blogspot.com

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Lydia Hill

LiseHorton1It’s a pleasure to introduce you to Lydia Hill also writing as Lise Horton. I first met Lise during last year’s BDSM for Writers 3-Day Intensive Workshop (the precursor of BDSM Writers Con.) With her fun playful nature, she was a pleasure to be around. She brings that same playful nature and wickedly devious mind to her novels.

Below are a few questions we have for Lise. You’re welcome to ask her a few of your own.

How did you get started writing erotica and erotic romance with BDSM and why do you enjoy this niche sub-genre so much?
I love this question because the genres were such a discovery for me as a reader and a writer! I love complex, dramatic stories and the heightened nature of ménage, BDSM and kink makes for great conflict and intense characters. The more I read of the kinkier romances, the more I found myself pushing the envelope of sex in my stories. Now I’m pretty much at the outer limits of heat and graphic and gritty – but I never lose sight of the fact that I want a happy ending (which just happens to sometimes include a paddling)! Under my pseudonym, Lydia Hill I write erotica, an equally enticing genre because it allows me to really explore human sexuality outside of the vanilla world. Sex is a powerful part of human life and kink has always been around. Taboo, but always there. Without the constraints of a happy ending, you can write stories of how far we’ll go to satisfy our darkest desires and cravings. Writing erotica allows me to fantasize on paper. So what could be bad?

What do you feel is the most important aspect of writing BDSM erotica and Erotic romance?
Super important to me is portraying the lifestyle as realistically as possible (it’s not fiction, after all!), Equipment. Terminology, etc. Whether it is an erotic short story, or an erotic romance novel, I want my characters in romance to be real people with honest hungers and desires. I want my readers to understand them and empathize with those carnal needs, even if the act in question is something a reader never considered. (For example, I’d never considered a breath play scene until I read a super hot one by Laurell K. Hamilton in Affliction).LiseHortonSlaveCvr

I do everything I can to remind readers about the BDSM community creed of “safe, sane and consensual”. I also try to convey the subtly of power exchange, the levels of trust involved and that these activities are mutually enjoyable and desired by both (or all) parties. There’s no abuse, and it’s definitely a matter of “whatever blows your skirt up”. Erotica permits writers a bit more leeway as romance publishers have some hard and fast lines about acts they won’t permit. For example, Daddy/little girl role play, golden showers and other water sports and serious humiliation play are not accepted by romance publishers (I’d love to hear of exceptions!). Lucky for me erotica embraces all flavors of kink because I am still pushing that particular envelope and having a spanking good time at it.

How do you research such kinky activities?
All romance writers get asked this question sooner or later, and BDSM erotica authors probably more than most. This is where opportunities like BDSM WRITERS CON comes in. Hands on research isn’t just invaluable – it’s a heck of a lot of fun. The community members who participate are awesome at sharing inside knowledge. But there is also a wonderful canon of non-fiction written about this lifestyle. I’ve read a number of books, including Dr. Charley’s “BDSM for Writers”, and they give great insight. There are also on-line organizations like FetLife, and in NYC we have The Eulenspiegel Society and Dom/sub Friends and our local BDSM club, Paddles. And I’m not embarrassed to admit that I have experimented myself (both with a willing partner, and on my own!). I have a lovely kinky toy box and there’s a lot a curious gal can do to find out what nipple clamps feel like, or a cane or flogger, since there are always pervertables to play with! I’m sure my local grocer wonders why I buy so many wooden clothespins…. and trust me, I don’t look at a zucchini quite the same way anymore.

Are there any “hard limits” that you, as an author, feel strongly about not putting in a book?
In erotic romance, I’m pretty much at the outer extremes these days. I use the raunchy words some might find off-putting, and I include D/s play in even my non-BDSM writing (Dominating Alpha males just make me want to bend over and drop my frilly panties!). But as mentioned, romance houses have hard and fast limits they won’t touch. In erotica I don’t believe I’ll ever get into knife or blood pLiseHortonLustCvrlay or some other edgy practices, and I’m sure every erotica writer out there has come across some act that just made them scratch their heads and say “What’s sexy about that?” Nothing I feel strongly about from an ethical perspective, just stuff that doesn’t get me all hot and bothered. On the other hand, I’m a gal who’ll never say never.

Do you get turned on by your own writing?
Hell Yes! And I hope that all my readers do too! Whether it’s a couple experimenting with a hot Dominance and submission scene such as I wrote in my debut, Words of Lust, or the darker, edgier and more serious play that you can read in my Ravenous Romance anthologies, or my recently released Cleis Press anthology short story, “My Master’s Mark” in Slave Girls, this genre most definitely lights my fire. I’ve written a ton of short fiction for my blog, Lust in the Afternoon, and over time was drawn more and more to the dark and intense appeal of BDSM. I often see a submission call and my mind immediately conjures up all manner of nasty perversions to visit upon my characters. And fortunately for me they’re all exhibitionists and they let me watch! Feel free to drop on by and join in the naughty fun!

Lise Horton’s debut erotic (with a touch of kink) romance, Words of Lust, was released in September 2013 by Carina Press. Writing under her erotica pseudonym, Lydia Hill, her short story, “My Master’s Mark” was included in the May 2014 Cleis Press anthology “Slave Girls” edited by D. L. King. Prior to embarking on a career writing erotica and erotic romance, she was a theatrical performer and award winning cabaret vocalist. She is a past president of the NYC Chapter of Romance Writers of America, and frequent workshop presenter. She firmly believes that kinky love and romance can happily co-exist.

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Lydia Hill, Featured Author at BDSM Writers Con 2014

Lise Horton

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It’s a pleasure to introduce you to Lise Horton also writing as Lydia Hill. I first met Lise during last year’s BDSM for Writers 3-Day Intensive Workshop (the precursor of BDSM Writers Con.) With her fun playful nature, she was a pleasure to be around. She brings that same playful nature and wickedly devious mind to her novels.

Below are a few questions we have for Lise. You’re welcome to ask her a few of your own.

How did you get started writing erotica and erotic romance with BDSM and why do you enjoy this niche sub-genre so much?
I love this question because the genres were such a discovery for me as a reader and a writer! I love complex, dramatic stories and the heightened nature of ménage, BDSM and kink makes for great conflict and intense characters. The more I read of the kinkier romances, the more I found myself pushing the envelope of sex in my stories. Now I’m pretty much at the outer limits of heat and graphic and gritty – but I never lose sight of the fact that I want a happy ending (which just happens to sometimes include a paddling)! Under my pseudonym, Lydia Hill I write erotica, an equally enticing genre because it allows me to really explore human sexuality outside of the vanilla world. Sex is a powerful part of human life and kink has always been around. Taboo, but always there. Without the constraints of a happy ending, you can write stories of how far we’ll go to satisfy our darkest desires and cravings. Writing erotica allows me to fantasize on paper. So what could be bad?

What do you feel is the most important aspect of writing BDSM erotica and Erotic romance?
Super important to me is portraying the lifestyle as realistically as possible (it’s not fiction, after all!), Equipment. Terminology, etc. Whether it is an erotic short story, or an erotic romance novel, I want my characters in romance to be real people with honest hungers and desires. I want my readers to understand them and empathize with those carnal needs, even if the act in question is something a reader never considered. (For example, I’d never considered a breath play scene until I read a super hot one by Laurell K. Hamilton in Affliction).LiseHortonSlaveCvr

I do everything I can to remind readers about the BDSM community creed of “safe, sane and consensual”. I also try to convey the subtly of power exchange, the levels of trust involved and that these activities are mutually enjoyable and desired by both (or all) parties. There’s no abuse, and it’s definitely a matter of “whatever blows your skirt up”. Erotica permits writers a bit more leeway as romance publishers have some hard and fast lines about acts they won’t permit. For example, Daddy/little girl role play, golden showers and other water sports and serious humiliation play are not accepted by romance publishers (I’d love to hear of exceptions!). Lucky for me erotica embraces all flavors of kink because I am still pushing that particular envelope and having a spanking good time at it.

How do you research such kinky activities?
All romance writers get asked this question sooner or later, and BDSM erotica authors probably more than most. This is where opportunities like BDSM WRITERS CON comes in. Hands on research isn’t just invaluable – it’s a heck of a lot of fun. The community members who participate are awesome at sharing inside knowledge. But there is also a wonderful canon of non-fiction written about this lifestyle. I’ve read a number of books, including Dr. Charley’s “BDSM for Writers”, and they give great insight. There are also on-line organizations like FetLife, and in NYC we have The Eulenspiegel Society and Dom/sub Friends and our local BDSM club, Paddles. And I’m not embarrassed to admit that I have experimented myself (both with a willing partner, and on my own!). I have a lovely kinky toy box and there’s a lot a curious gal can do to find out what nipple clamps feel like, or a cane or flogger, since there are always pervertables to play with! I’m sure my local grocer wonders why I buy so many wooden clothespins…. and trust me, I don’t look at a zucchini quite the same way anymore.

Are there any “hard limits” that you, as an author, feel strongly about not putting in a book?
In erotic romance, I’m pretty much at the outer extremes these days. I use the raunchy words some might find off-putting, and I include D/s play in even my non-BDSM writing (Dominating Alpha males just make me want to bend over and drop my frilly panties!). But as mentioned, romance houses have hard and fast limits they won’t touch. In erotica I don’t believe I’ll ever get into knife or blood pLiseHortonLustCvrlay or some other edgy practices, and I’m sure every erotica writer out there has come across some act that just made them scratch their heads and say “What’s sexy about that?” Nothing I feel strongly about from an ethical perspective, just stuff that doesn’t get me all hot and bothered. On the other hand, I’m a gal who’ll never say never.

Do you get turned on by your own writing?
Hell Yes! And I hope that all my readers do too! Whether it’s a couple experimenting with a hot Dominance and submission scene such as I wrote in my debut, Words of Lust, or the darker, edgier and more serious play that you can read in my Ravenous Romance anthologies, or my recently released Cleis Press anthology short story, “My Master’s Mark” in Slave Girls, this genre most definitely lights my fire. I’ve written a ton of short fiction for my blog, Lust in the Afternoon, and over time was drawn more and more to the dark and intense appeal of BDSM. I often see a submission call and my mind immediately conjures up all manner of nasty perversions to visit upon my characters. And fortunately for me they’re all exhibitionists and they let me watch! Feel free to drop on by and join in the naughty fun!

Lise Horton’s debut erotic (with a touch of kink) romance, Words of Lust, was released in September 2013 by Carina Press. Writing under her erotica pseudonym, Lydia Hill, her short story, “My Master’s Mark” was included in the May 2014 Cleis Press anthology “Slave Girls” edited by D. L. King. Prior to embarking on a career writing erotica and erotic romance, she was a theatrical performer and award winning cabaret vocalist. She is a past president of the NYC Chapter of Romance Writers of America, and frequent workshop presenter. She firmly believes that kinky love and romance can happily co-exist.

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Lise Horton, Featured Author BDSM Writers Con 2014

This is Lise’s second year attending BDSM Writers Con; what used to be known as BDSM for Writers 3-Day Intensive Workshop. Lise shows her dedication to her craft and her fans as she discovers more about the various nuances of Dominance and submission.