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Leia Shaw

Leia ShawPlease join me in welcoming Leia Shaw.  She will have several of her books available for sell during the conference. She will also sign autographs, taking pictures, and answer your questions.

Below are a few questions we thought you’d like to know about Leia Shaw just to get you started. Please feel free to ask more and/or leave your comments below.

How did you start writing BDSM?
Now that’s an interesting story. There I was, minding my own business, writing my funny paranormal romance novels, never having had a single kinky thought in my little head (wink, wink). When along came Cari Silverwood and Sorcha Black, tempting me with naughtiness and promises of cold hard cash and girl on girl action. Who could say no to that, right? So I dove down the rabbit hole of my twisted mind and out came the Badass Brats books, for your kinky amusement 😉

Have you reacted badly to a bad review?
When I first started writing and published my first two books, my skin hadn’t been thickened yet. My friends all told me what a great writer I was and how much they loved my books. The first reviews that came in were all positive. Until THE ONE. I think every author gets at least one scathing review of their book – someone who sounds like they just hate your guts and would be thrilled if someone chopped your fingers off so you could never write another word again. Yeah. It was that kind of review. I was crushed. At that point, I couldn’t understand how anyone could hate my book that much. Like I said, I was a newbie. But it wasn’t only that she hated me and my books, but she took quotes from my book out of context and got all her friends to slam the book too, even though they hadn’t read it. And this was a prominent reviewer from a very well-known review site. I think I even cried.

Now every seasoned author knows, you NEVER comment on a review. Well, no one had told me that so I very politely told the reviewer why I thought she was wrong and why she should like my book. I know, I know. Rookie mistake. Anyway, it didn’t get as bad as it could’ve – I’ve seen authors literally torn apart just for daring to comment on a review site. So I was lucky the reviewer just unfriended me on goodreads and let it go. Now that I’ve been doing this a while I have thicker skin. Most of the time, I laugh bad reviews off, if I even bother to look at them. Every once in a while something will strike a nerve. I might grumble to close friends but I eventually let it go. After all, you can’t please everyone.

Are the names of the characters in your novel important?
They are to me. Naming characters is part of the fun when I write on my own. With Sorcha and Cari though, names can cause some of the biggest fights. Getting three opinionated women to agree on everything is close to impossible. I’m amazed that we have four books published together. Lol.

When I name my characters, there are a few things I keep in mind. One, the generation the character was born in. An eighty year old woman is unlikely to be called Tiffany. So if you love a name that wasn’t common for the time period the person was born in, you need a compelling reason the parents picked that name. Were they hipsters that liked going against popular trends? Was the character named after a family member? The other thing to think about is heritage. In The Dom with a Safeword, my character was a feisty Italian girl. So I named her Sabrina Romano. Lastly I think about their personality. What seems to just fit them, what sounds right. This is based on instinct.

Sometimes a name is just a name, sometimes it’s much more. A name can be a story. Or it could build into who that person is. In The Dom with the Clever Tongue, my character Reece Duncan thinks she’s a plain Jane, even her name sounds plain to her. And in The Dom with the Perfect Brats, my character with kooky parents is called Gemma Stone. For me, it’s fun to use the name as more than just what the person is called. I like having a story behind it – whether the character makes it a story or the name makes the character.

Do you ever write naked?
No, but sometimes I write in my underwear. Mostly if I’m feeling lazy and want to write in bed. I hate wearing pants to bed for some reason. I feel all hot and uncomfortable. So if I’m writing in bed, I’m usually just in my underwear. Now you can picture that when I update my status that I’m writing. Lol.

Have you ever modeled one of your characters after yourself?
I think there are parts of myself in most of my characters. It’s true, even in fiction, that you write what you know. When you make a character like yourself, a friend, your spouse, etc, the character tends to feel more real, more deep, more authentic.

What are some ways to stay sane as a writer?

  1. Get rid of the notion you’ll make money.
  2. Don’t read your reviews.
  3. Don’t compare yourself to other authors.
  4. Don’t expect to make money.
  5. Get a real job.

I want to thank Leia once more for joining us. As she stated, please feel free to follow her at the various locations and visit her website to review her “Bad Ass Brats” series.

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Leia Shaw featured author during BDSM Writers Con 2014


Laci Paige


I met Laci Paige and her husband when she attended my 3-Day BDSM Intensive Workshop last year, what was to become BDSM Writers Con.

She’s a wonderful fun loving person who has a lot to of creativity and playfulness to her personality. I’m sure you’ll love the stories she writers.

Below are a few questions we asked Laci to help you get to know her.

What got you started in writing BDSM ?

A couple of years ago I was looking for something to read, and came across a few free reads on Amazon about the BDSM lifestyle. I was intrigued. So I read them and became even more intrigued. I wanted to know more. I hit the internet – reading blogs, interviewing people, reading books, and attending events and conferences all in the name of research.

Why are you attending BDSM Writers Con ?
I’ve attended events before for romance and/or erotic authors, but never a BDSM specific event until summer of 2013 when I attended Dr. Charley’s BDSM for Writers Workshop. I enjoyed it, and learned a lot. It’s very specific, where everyone has something in common, whether it’s living the lifestyle, reading about it, or writing it, we all have common ground. I look forward to learning more at this year’s BDSM Writers Con 2014, and mingling with like-minded authors & fans.

What did you think of your first experience to Dr. Charley’s BDSM education?
I thought it was an excellent experience. I learned the in’s-and-out’s from experienced people. It helped me with my writing, and believe it or not, my personal life too. From the basics on up, Dr. Charley covered a wide range of the lifestyle dynamics, as well as lining up some pretty awesome guest speakers – who also write and live the lifestyle.

Do you take hints on stories from fans?
I can say that I read all of my reviews, comments on my social media, and messages from my inbox. I don’t get story ideas from my fans, but sometimes if they question things it prompts me to do more research. I did have a few people comment on something specific in one of my books, and after asking around the answer was 50/50 so I actually revised and tweaked my story because of the strong response on both sides of it.

What story have you always wanted to write but haven’t?
There are so many things in my head that I want to write but haven’t, that I don’t know where to start. The past year I’ve enjoyed reading m/m. So that might be my next venture.
Laci Paige is author of the Silken Edge Series. The books are a fictitious series about a group of people who are into the BDSM scene. Each book follows a different couple as they grow and learn to discover more about themselves in the lifestyle, and their relationships.

The Silken Edge won an UP Author Award, and has hit the #1 spot twice on Amazon for Erotica. Laci’s stories always end with HEA or HFN, and her husband is always a willing participant when she needs some hands-on research.

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Laci Paige a Featured Author during BDSM Writers Con 2014

This is Laci’s second year attending BDSM Writers Con showing a dedication to her craft and fans as she discovers even more about the lifestyle of Dominance & submission and incorporating that knowledge in her amazing stories.

Joey W. Hill

Joey W. Hill

A Guided Fantasy for us all!

by Joey W. Hill



I’m working on a scene where my hero is offering my heroine a guided fantasy. This is a great BDSM exercise for the kind of Dom who has a flare for the dramatic, using props and sensory input to let a sub really get lost in the scenario he’s creating for her. Here’s a little piece of it, to warm you up for my point:

He pushed a finger inside of her as she bit back another whimper.


“Be still. Just feel,” he ordered. “You asked what’s next on the agenda. You’re going to be that slave you fantasized about, sold at auction. A soldier is going to buy you, and share you with his friends. Christ, your pussy is sucking on my hand just thinking of it, aren’t you?”

“It won’t….really involve other men?”

“Lucky for you, I could tell you don’t really want that.” He pushed in deeper and she gasped. “It will be a guided fantasy. That means I’m going to make you believe your fantasy is happening, using different props and sensations. Like hypnosis, it helps a sub lose herself in it in a safe way. I might have an assistant or two, but the only cock you’re ever going to feel in that eager pussy of yours, now and going forward, is mine. Got it?”

“Oh…” She gripped the table as he pushed in a second finger. He started moving them in a coital rhythm, his thumb teasing her clit. “Logan, please don’t…”

“Asking me not to do something your body is begging for is like cutting your wrist in front of a shark.” Leaning down, he nuzzled her ear, took a sharp nip that made her shudder. “I can be ruthless when circumstances call for it. If you hadn’t noticed.”

–from Naughty Bits, a four-novellas series coming April 2014

To my way of thinking, the BDSM Writers’ Con offers a guided fantasy experience to its attendees. With a plethora of demos from actual Doms and subs, a visit to a BDSM club and the chance to observe and participate, the attendees, whether or not they are part of the lifestyle, will be able to get clos

er to what it’s like to be a hero or heroine in a D/s relationship or scenario. On top of that, those who wish to write better BDSM will be offered workshops by authors who have a reputation for doing it in a way that leaves readers asking for more. Just like a guided fantasy, successful BDSM romance writing requires a meshing of reality and illusion. The Aug 21-24, 2014 weekend provides a chance to learn about all of it – the reality and the romance.

That’s an experience that can be appealing to writers and readers. For instance, when I went to the Naughty Sleepover in San Antonio last year, they had a live Master-sub session in the hotel ballroom. Using Japanese rope tying techniques, one Master tied two standing female subs to one another with an upper body harness. Their arms were boxed behind them. Another Master spanked them with varying degrees of roughness and brought each woman to climax right there in front of us all. For many attendees, it was the first time they’d witnessed such a thing. They’ve read about it in erotic romances, but seeing how reality and fantasy can intertwine so beautifully in healthy BDSM practice… Well, all I can say is there were over a hundred women in that room, and you could have heard a pin drop for those 90 minutes. How often does THAT ever happen? The only way I’ll get that level of attention during my keynote speech is if I beg a few Masters to weave their way among the audience with whip or paddle in hand. Of course, momma didn’t raise no fool. You get a punishment only if you’re SILENT (grin).

Ahem. Where was I? Like a lot of people, I live in a situation/location that doesn’t allow me a lot of access to BDSM resources. I started writing D/s as an exploration of my own submissive nature, so for my first few books, I wrote D/s romance based purely on that and the occasional Internet research to verify some mechanics. I’ve since decided I was glad I came at it that way, because I’ve found the psychology of Dominance/submission the most powerful part of the story, eclipsing any restraints or fancy gadgets (though don’t get me wrong – those ARE lots of fun). However, I had the advantage of already having that strong drive within myself to guide me. If I had wanted to write BDSM romance and only had the basic Dominant/submissive tendencies we all have to greater/lesser degrees, with nothing inside to really drive it forward, and no external resources, my attempts to write D/s romance might have gone a much different direction.

That’s why I’m pleased that we’ve progressed to the point an event like this is being offered. For one thing, as a BDSM practitioner and author, I want to see it done well (hey, I’m a reader, too!). But an experience like this benefits writers and readers. As I said above, all of us have Dom/sub tendencies. That doesn’t mean you want to become an active lifestyler. I get plenty of readers and authors who send me complimentary emails about my work (thank you!), but in the same breath assure me they are not a Dom or sub, or wish to practice BDSM. And that’s totally okay – erotic romance gives readers the chance to experience it in a pleasurable way for them. We all have a sense of adventure, and that sense manifests itself a lot of ways – some jump out of airplanes, others get a tattoo, and some let Netflix randomly choose their movies for them (hey, it takes courage to do that one – believe me!). There are a lot of things my submissive heroes and heroines do that I would NEVER do. But I love reading about them doing it (wink).

The point is, though many readers and authors enjoy the dynamics of D/s only in the written word, they wouldn’t mind getting an even closer look, still within their comfort zone. The BDSM Writers’ Con provides that option. Having direct access to BDSM resources will help you indulge your sense of adventure in a safe way. If it works the way intended, writers will come away with better tools to craft BDSM stories, readers will have greater knowledge of what BDSM is and isn’t, and everyone will have had a lot of fun on their “guided fantasy” through the BDSM world.

See you there! And on behalf of all of us who’ve wanted something like this out there for awhile, our thanks to Dr. Charley Ferrer for founding and hosting the conference!

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Joey W. Hill, Keynote Speaker BDSM Writers Con 2014


Gray Dixon

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It was a thrill to meet Gray Dixon during BDSM for Writers 3-Day Intensive Workshop in New York City August 2013. Her dedication to expanding her knowledge of Dominance and submission makes me want to run out and buy all her BDSM books. Now I just have to convince her to write a few Dominant woman/submissive male book just as hot and sexy as what she’s written to date. *hint hint* Between Black and White XLg 1

Thank you for featuring me today.

All right, here’s the skinny on me. Gray Dixon is my nom de plume, my pen name for the erotica—hot, sexy stories for the adult crowd—I write. I love walks along the beach at sunset, a glass of wine over a romantic dinner and a night of love.

Okay, that sounded like something I’d write in one of my books. On the serious side, I’mMasterKnight_XSM (2) married to my Dear Heart for many years, have the 2.1 children according to statistics, a dog or two (depends on how I feel when I visit the pet rescue center), a couple of fish (they’re easy to take care of), a big yard with lots of fruit trees (I like organic gardening), two cars and a house (both two much to take care of when I want to write). Overall, I like a lot of different things—crafting, watching the History Channel, reality shows (not all, but some), travel, and writing. I have a few skeletons in my closet, but I’ll never tell. I’ve worked hard all my life in many interesting career paths and enjoyed all of them. Writing and getting published, however, has topped all my previous endeavors. I love creating new worlds and living in them for a brief time before moving on to the next one.

I don’t have a day job (gave it up years ago) and I laugh at my own jokes because I have a weird sense of humor. I like to add that weirdness to my stories too. Oh, and I write BDSM stories.

MasterKing_XSM (2)I began writing about four years ago and started with quite by accident—vampires. Now, if you knew me you’d know I don’t like creepy, horror like creatures. I’m a quiet, very introverted type who doesn’t like all those scary things. Husband does! My exposure to the genre sort of rubbed off I guess, but I wanted mine to be a little edgy, dark, scary but sexy too. I gave them a BDSM lifestyle. When the idea for a more contemporary story line came to mind, it was then I made the decision to use a pen name to keep the vampire world separate. This new contemporary series allowed me to explore the realism of the lifestyle in my writing, where the vampire world didn’t.

So began the my personal journey into writing the Masters of Tabu series, seven books with seven men in search of finding balance and joy in their lives. The fourth of seven contracted, Master Marshal, released on November 20. I finished the first three before attending the BDSM Writers Conference this past August. Although the three books have thus far been well-received, I see how I could’ve made them stronger and more polished. The last three and even the vampire stories will reflect my new knowledge. What I learned and experienced at the conference was fantastic, extraordinary, enlightening and I’d highly recommend any writer or reader interested in learning more to make plans to attend.

Dr. Charley’s presentation during the intensive three-day workshop made such an impression with me, and I didn’t hesitate to sign-up for the 2014 Conference! At a recent reader/author conference in New Orleans, I even expounded the virtues of the event. I MasterPrince_XSM (2)talked another author into attending! She has the information, so let’s hope she decides to join the fun.

Segueing into my recent release, during one of the visits to Paddles in New York City, the oldest dungeon, I watched the rope suspension and was absolutely mesmerized. The sensuality of the scenes inspired me to write a scene in Master Marshal. I hope I did it justice. I couldn’t have done it without attending the workshop, so thank you Dr. Charley. All my characters have bits and pieces of me in them and I hope I did a good job of describing the scene.

I learned a lonMasterMarshall_XSM (2)g time ago, people’s lives change daily, and I must say, taking this journey to write BDSM stories has been a life-changing experience.

Be naughty my pets…and stay safe, sane and consensual in all your lives.
Gray Dixon


BDSM Writers Con, Doctor Charley Ferrer, kink, fetishes, bondage, BDSM education, dominance and submission Gray Dixon is a Featured Author during BDSM Writers Con 2014. This is her second year with the us. She attended last year, 2013 when we were a smaller intimate group called BDSM for Writers 3-Day Intensive Workshop. Gray Dixon shows her dedication to her craft as she learns more about Dominance & submission in order to share it with her fans.

Destiny Blaine

This week it’s my pleasure to present Destiny Blaine. She will be signing autographs on Sunday, August 24, 2014 during BDSM Writers Con. Below are a few questions we had for Destiny. Feel free to pose more in our comments section for her to answer. She writes under several pen names. The first one to tell us her other pen name wins a prize.

When did you begin writing BDSM?
If I’m not mistaken, my first BDSM romances were written about a year after I was first published in erotic romance so roughly around seven years ago.

You write under a few pseudonyms. Why so many different pen names?
The decision to write under several pseudonyms sort of happened all at once. Publishers Naughty_Neighbors_DestinyBlaine_Smallmade some recommendations to keep a few pen names branded a certain way and b efore I knew it, juggling a handful of names became the norm.

Most writers are also avid readers. What do you look for specifically when reading BDSM romances?
Realistic characters, believable situations, and apparent knowledge all contribute to things I look for in BDSM romances, but I think it goes without saying that these elements are crucial regardless of the genre. Since life is so hectic, I go to authors I can trust to deliver high quality BDSM because they’ve done their research and/or live the lifestyle.

Do you hasex club_picve personal experience in the lifestyle?
The best way to answer this is to say that it is very easy for someone like me to transition into the lifestyle because I have the knowledge and interest, not to mention hundreds of research hours.

What do you think is the most important aspect of this type of relationship? Is it for everyone?
In order to have a successful Dom/sub relationship, trust and respect must exist at the core of the relationship. With a solid foundation, and what I call ‘The Kink Generation’ (where everyone is interested in or excited by the BDSM lifestyle), more vanilla couples will begin to experiment with BDSM play in their private lives and many of those couples will embrace the lifestyle and BDSM community as well.

Which of your books are some of your favorite BDSM romances?
Cowboy Boots and Untamed Hearts was one of my first and more popular books under the pseudonym Natalie Acres, but Cowboy Boots and Inconceivable Arrangements is a favorite because of the interaction between the characters. Imprints, the first novella in Siren-Bookstrand’s Dominant Wolves, Submissive Mates, is a historical BDSM paranormal series and I’ve enjoyed working on these stories because of the historical aspect. Finally, Naughty Neighbors, a Champagne Book Group title is a favorite but it’s not for the faint at heart.

What’s up next for your pseudonyms?Cowboy_boots_Book7
Several new works are almost ready for submission at Siren Publishing for the continuing Cowboy Sex and Cowboy Boots series. I’m writing a new and exciting BDSM paranormal thriller which is also slated to go to Siren-Bookstrand for consideration.

Writing for Dark Hollows Press, I’m working in collaboration with debut author Marc Alice on a couple of projects, including Lucifer’s Lunatic and Safe Mountain: Sins of Wolves series.

Thanks so much for letting me be your guest today, Dr. Charley. I look forward to meeting you in August!

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Destiny Blaine presenter during BDSM Writers Con 2014

Debra Hyde

Debra Hyde author photoIt’s a pleasure to have Debra Hyde join us for BDSM Writers Con 2014. She brings with her an expertize in marketing and publicity every author would “stop” writing for…well ok, for the length of her workshop then authors are back to the salt mines of their minds.

And though Debra is a wiz at publicity, we asked her to step outside that realm and answer a few other questions for us.

What made you want to write BDSM?
I started writing BDSM erotica—and erotica in general—almost twenty years ago, spending most of that time writing short stories for various erotica publishers. Why? I loved weaving matters of life as subtext and backdrop for the greatest of all human endeavors, sexual intimacy. I loved writing about erotic heat, its rise and fall, its drama. I loved writing about how transformative sex can be, about its healing and validating powers. And the fact that it got people all hot and bothered (including me!) was icing on the cake!

What scenes do you find the hardest to write?
Always the next scene, and that’s true whether or not it’s a sex scene. Writing is work!

Do you believe every book should have a HEA? Or should we be more realistic with a HFN?(Happy for now)
If we’re talking erotic romance, either form is fine with me. However, HEA or HFN works best when it’s made as satisfying for the reader as possible. I do, though, want to point out that in the greater realm of erotic writing, neither ending is absolutely required. If you want to write dark and transgressive erotica, literary fiction with strong erotic content, or other-genre erotic content, you aren’t—and shouldn’t be—limited to HEA or HFN.

Why are you attending BDSM Writers Con?
I can’t wait to meet other authors—and especially fans of the erotic word! I hope we’ll form a sustainable community, much like other genre conventions. I’d love to see this conference achieve something as fan-celebrating as science fiction and fantasy conventions have! Can you imagine?!

Do you think other authors and readers should attend? Why or why not?
Absolutely! It’s our chance to come together as an enthusiastic and devoted community, something that was impossible when I started writing erotica all those years ago. Think of the ideas and appreciations, the experiences and expertise we can share! It’s long overdue, but we finally have a platform.

What do you want to share most with the participants in August?
Camaraderie. The love of books and the erotic word. Appreciation for all things BDSM. And, of course, my own works and what I’ve learned through the years as both an author and BDSM practitioner!

Debra Hyde is a Lambda Literary award-winning author, recognized for her BDSM novel, Story of L. A modern retelling of the classic Story of O, L updates the original tale to reflect the contemporary lesbian leather world and the women in it. She now pens the newly-released Charlotte Olmes Mystery Series, which re-imagines the famous Holmes/Watson cohorts as lesbian women in 1880s New York City just as the Gilded Age and its social and scientific advances take hold. Debra is a contributing author to the ground-breaking interactive erotic Entwined series, penning two lesbian novellas for it, Hers and Provenance. Her short fiction backlist spans over a decade of writing and will be re-released as mini-collections in ebook during 2014.

Debra is nearing her twenty-year anniversary in BDSM scene. For sixteen of those years, she was an owned submissive and although her master “aged out” of dominance in his senior years, they’re still attached to each other and still playing. Devotion is ever-lasting.

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Debra Hyde presenter during BDSM Writers Con 2014

Cassandra Park

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I very much enjoyed being one of the presenters this year for Doctor Charley’s 3-Day Workshop Series, BDSM for Writers, and to present on one of my favorite topics, Spanking and Discipline Play.

I was the first presenter on the Sunday morning of the class, and it was fun listening to the group talk about the guided tour they’d taken of the BDSM club, Paddles, the night before. The group described some of the characters they’d observed there, and I couldn’t help but wonder which of them I knew.

The class was a mixed group, some with experience in the scene, some private players, and some with no experience. I don’t know how much the popularity of the book Fifty Shades of Grey had to do with their interest in writing about kink, but I’m sure at least some recognized that this could be a good market to dip their toes into.

Part of me couldn’t help thinking: Why would non-kinky people want to write about kink? But then I know there are lots of categories where the writers don’t have anything in common with the people they write about. Many a thriller, for instance, has been told from the killer’s point of view. Anyone who does good research can write about any topic. Why not learn about this thing and write about it?

If you are familiar with Fifty Shades of Grey you know that it is more of a romance than anything else, even though so much has been discussed about the kinky part of it. The two characters are in love and kink is only part of that romance.

I could see a parallel in the spanking world, where many players look at their play as just part of romance. They might not even call themselves kinky, but they’ve spanked each other during sex.

When I was preparing for the class I’d be giving, I tried to break spanking down into categories. I came up with the following:

Categories of Spankos
* those who like sexual or sensual spanking only — they consider it foreplay; it’s mainly physical

* sadists or masochists—they like giving or getting pain; it’s exciting to give or receive

* dominants or submissives —they like being in control or being controlled

* those who play for catharsis or stress relief—spanking is like a drug; it can bring emotional release; release of guilt

* punishment players—this can be part of a long-term agreement, not unlike Dom/sub arrangements, where one person agrees to follow certain rules or be punished

* fantasy role-players—they get off on playing different characters, often reliving scenes from childhood where they had no choice. It’s sometimes done simply for fun as well, or to give a “reason” for the spanking play

I talked about how most spankos tend to cross over into more than one of these categories, or fall into one of these categories with one partner and another category with another partner.

I then talked about how some spankos don’t see themselves as part of the larger BDSM community, and if they go to public parties they may only go to spanking parties.

The implements used in play by spankos tend to be very specific as well.

* Domestic—hair brush, a bath brush, a wooden spoon, belt, strap, switch . . . items a parent might use on a child.

* Educational—ruler, paddle, switch (more southern American), cane or slipper (British) . . . items that a teacher would use. Most spankos would not use crops, whips, floggers, nipple clamps, etc.—they consider that out of the fantasy realm.

I followed this up by a discussion on some of the fetishes and fantasy roles spankos enjoy:

Fetishes: (costumes and personas associated with spanking)
* Catholic school girl uniform. May include the correct panty—white cotton briefs are considered the closest to the original as possible. Cheerleader’s uniform is related.

* The belt–many bottoms express how excited and nervous they get when top rips his belt off and prepares to punish them

* Standing in the corner; often with bottom exposed

* Panties in general; (smaller group) panty lines. Stockings, pantyhose, tights

* Pencil skirt and ruffled high-necked blouse—attire that an old fashioned school-marm or librarian might wear

* Woman in a business suit

* Woman wearing glasses—implied intelligence, implied no-nonsense authority figure.

* Police officer, firefighter (firefighter is popular as a strong “authority” figure who’s also associated with being helpful and caring)

* Principal

* Catholic nun

I tried to make the talk light and as humorous as I could. What does an outsider to BDSM wish to know about spanking, I wondered? However, it’s a very widespread type of play and I think even the most hardcore player has spanked his partner at one point or another. So it’s sure to come up in most books about BDSM.

Next year I hope to kick it up a little bit, perhaps giving a live demonstration with a partner in a role play. I don’t know if any of the players want to participate, but I may bring some implements as well that, if they wish, they can try on my “demo bottom.”

Also next year I hope to have a fourth book published and available. I currently have three books on the market, My First Spanking, an eBook anthology of short stories published by Ravenous Romance, and It’s SUPPOSED to Hurt! Volumes I & II, available through Amazon, Barnes & Noble, CreateSpace, and the other usual places you buy books.

A little about Cassandra Park Cassandra Park is an editor and writer (erotic and mainstream) who has been in the BDMS lifestyle for more than 25 years. She dabbles in many types of play but gravitates to spanking and discipline play. She and her husband attend several spanking parties a year around the country. Cassandra writes about the scene on her blog, Sandy’s Room. In the vanilla world, she enjoys photography, reading, and making things. She lives in Queens, NY.

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Carrie Anne Ward

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 Carrie Anne Ward

 Hear what she has to say about writing, HEA and BDSM.



Do you believe every book should have a HEA? Or should we be more realistic with a HFN?(Happy for now)
hmm I picked this question because I believe in HFN, it leaves the reader wondering what happens next, and even thought my story are fantasy fiction, I still want to keep it a little realistic. Therefore I keep it as though there is the option it might not work out. It also lives the book open for the possibility of another story.

What made you want to right BDSM?
Well this is simply because I live the life. I am a real life submissive, and even thought I’ve been writing stories here and there for years, after reading 50 shades I wanted to show people what it’s really like to be a submissive. So I took my experiences and formed a story. I mixed truth with fantasy. It’s two of my favorite passions and I combined them.

What scenes do you find the hardest to write?

Well, believe it or not the BDSM sex scenes are the hardest. Purely because I want to explain every single detail of what I feel when I am in one of those scenes. To explain that feeling to someone who has ever experienced it is pretty difficult. Explaining to someone how, to me, pain can be pleasurable.

What’s your favorite book?
lol actually my favorite book isn’t an erotic book, it’s the hunger games. I could not put the book down. Suzanne Collins created something very different with this story. I love the movies just as much. I read all three books in two days.

What’s your book about?
A Taylor Made Student it’s a three part story, about a young girl called Kiera embarking on a forbidden kinky D/s relationship with her art tutor, Taylor Holloway. They try hard to keep their affair hidden, but someone finds out and threatens to ruin their lives and their relationship. Along the dark path of submission to Taylor, Kiera’s feelings grow strong, and both hers and Taylor’s secrets start seep from the cracks and back into their lives. It’s a romance BDSM erotic story which will have you squirming in your seat.

I wanted to ask what your thoughts and feelings were about BDSM as I know a lot of people have the idea that is some sort of forced torture. So can you tell us a little bit about your world of BDSM and give a little more educating to a role play scene many do not understand?
I wouldn’t say FORCED torture, but it you want torture, if that’s what you’re in to and it turns you on, then yeah torture it can be. For me it’s probably the most honest and loving relationship I have ever been in. The trust I share with my Sir is like nothing I have ever felt. We have to be honest in every sense for the D/s relationship to work. BDSM isn’t just about pain and pleasure, believe it or not there are a lot of subs out there that don’t like the pain and a lot of Dom’s that don’t like inflicting it. It’s mostly about the submission and dominance of control. Some Dom’s like to simply pleasure their sub’s, but people tend to only see the pain side of it. I won’t lie, I like the pain. It gets my blood pumping, the adrenaline surging. I like feeling scared, intimidated etc. It makes me feel alive and to then have my Sir care for me after is such a beautiful and wonderful feeling. I wouldn’t change it. I trust him to know me and my limits and he trusts me to tell him when I don’t like something, to be honest. However, most importantly… it’s consensual. Every vanilla relationship is different and that’s the same with BDSM/D’s relationships, it’s just we throw in a few extras lol. When you think about your sex life every single relationship has a little D/s in it to some degree, it’s just Sir and I take it further. I could be here forever trying to explain it, but truth be told I can’t.

white shoes on an upright pianoYour writing is very much based on some of your experiences in life, how much of it is fiction and how much is based on true events?
I would say it’s about 50/50; there are some fictional scenes but give me time, I am pretty sure they will soon become non fictional lol. I believe in writing what you know, so I took the experience I have had and put them into my book. I want it to feel real, I want people to read what it’s really like to be a submissive and living the BDSM life style. I want a person to read a story written by a real submissive and not from someone who thinks they know about kink just because they did a bit of research.

Where does Carrie Anne Ward see herself in five years time; any goals or aspirations you have set yourself?
To be a big time author of course. Watch out E L James I am coming for you. I wanna be living in New York, but I think that’s a little too over the top. Wishful thinking. I want my name to be well known in the erotic world. I want to give up my day job and write full time. I would love for one of my books to be created into a movie, but I wouldn’t allow it to be change for the film and I would pick the cast lol. Other then living my life with my Sir, still playing in the dungeon, I think the one small dream I have, is to simply see my book on the shelves.

Carrie Anne Ward grew up in the seaside resort Clacton on sea in Essex, England, with her mum and two brothers until she
was 16 years old. She then moved with her mother to Colchester (where she still lives to this day) and went on to study Art and Design at the Colchester institute. However, after recovering from the illness glandular fever, which meant she couldn’t finish her degree, she went out into the world to become a working class citizen and a glamour model on the side.

For many years she wrote story in her spare time, mostly horrors or supernatural, but never felt the passion to take it further. Her love for literature at school didn’t, at that point, over take her love of Art, but as she grew older her passion in writing surpass any other desire she ever had.

Her love for literature over the years grew excessively (mostly erotica) and when BDSM erotic books took the world by storm, she finally found the genre in which she wanted to write about. So being a real submissive, Carrie decided to take the experiences she has had and combined them with her imagination, to create a story. So at the age of 33 she fulfilled her dream to become a writer by releaseing her debut novel A Taylor Made Student, the first book of 3 from The Taylor Made Series.

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