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Cris Anson

Cris Anson

BDSM?

Truth to tell, I’m like a kid in a candy store. I want to taste it all, see it all, try it all.

Let me back up. In August 2012, I attended Dr. Charley’s inaugural “BDSM for Writers Workshop” in New York City, a small group that fit in the parlor of a hotel suite. Like a sponge, I absorbed every word and asked questions along with my fellow attendees, none of whom were “out” in the lifestyle.

Our curriculum included two eye-opening visits to Paddles, NYC’s longest-running dungeon (30 years so far and going strong). Friday night was quiet, so we were able to touch, try, sit on or be tied to any or all of the equipment, talk to folks who welcomed us because they wanted us writers to “get it” and tell the truth about the lifestyle. Saturday the joint was jumping, with TES (The Eulenspiegel Society) hosting a well-attended party. We watched floggings, spankings, needle play, humiliation, pussy torture, cock torture, tickling, and a host of other fetishes, all of which enlivened our imaginations for future stories.

My biggest takeaway, however, was the friends I made in the lifestyle, Dr. Charley primary among them. It should be no surprise, therefore, that I dedicated my September 2013 release from Ellora’s Cave, NO PATIENCE, thus:

To Dr. Charley Ferrer, World Renowned Clinical Sexologist. Your BDSM for Writers Weekend in August 2012 opened so many doors—into my mind and into your world. Thank you for your friendship and guidance. My writing is all the richer for it.

Okay, another huge takeaway: the lifestyle itself. I found the courage to sign up for Fetlife. Through that connection I discovered several groups in my area and began to attend “munches” – a kinky way to describe a “vanilla” social event where we simply sat and chatted, not unlike being in a friend’s living room and meeting that person’s other friends. Because believe me, you want to know a little about the person you’re standing naked in front of while they do dastardly things to you (with your consent, of course).

From there I progressed to attending a few private parties, then graduated to actually going to a dungeon with a few new female friends. I experienced spanking, flogging, single-tail whip and other impact instruments, Violet Wand, being blindfolded, tied up, was partially suspended and more. Some kinks I enjoyed more than others. Some I’d love to do again and again and again and…um, where was I? Oh, right. All of these experiences have begun to flavor my writing.

Right now I’m putting the finishing touches on REDEMPTION AND MERCY, a novel that’s about 50,000 words (and climbing). Both the hero and heroine have just dipped their toes into the BDSM world, both have a mentor, and when they meet, oh boy, electricity zaps all over the place! *big grin* Trouble is, both of them have lots of sexual experience but what they know about power exchange, delayed gratification, dominating and submitting, could fit inside a teaspoon. So each of them gets a taste of being both a Dom and a sub. And although I’m leaning a certain way, I’m still not sure which of them will be *ahem* on top at the end of the book!

But maybe that’s because I still consider myself a switch. When I meet that person who will either make me want to kneel naked before him or let him feel my lash on his naked flesh, I’ll be sure to let y’all know.

Meanwhile, let me pimp my MERCY series.

The first, PUNISHMENT AND MERCY, is a ménage set in 1699 Massachusetts Bay Colony, in which both the blacksmith and his apprentice fall in love with the lusty widow. It’s available in both print and digital formats at Ellora’s Cave, Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and other online booksellers. Maybe I took liberties (I’m sure no one in 1699 dared write about it), but there are BDSM elements in that story.

The second is MERCY AND REDEMPTION, a contemporary reincarnation story where the two heroes researching their genealogy meet in an old cemetery an hour from Boston. The heroine comes across them while doing gravestone rubbings. The three of them realize they have unfinished business from the past and yes, it is also a ménage. Now available digitally, MERCY AND REDEMPTION will be released in paperback on December 23.

The aforementioned book I’m working on, REDEMPTION AND GLORY, should be ready for my editor before year’s end and I hope it will be available, at least digitally, for the August conference [BDSM Writers Con]. This one is strictly BDSM and it’s all as a result of Doctor Charley’s teaching at the two BDSM for Writers Conferences I attended.

If you write BDSM (or want to) or if you enjoy reading it, don’t miss this year’s BDSM WRITERS CON!

Cris Anson’s interest in BDSM has been evident since Ellora’s Cave published her first erotic romance in 2005. In Redemption and Glory, her fourteenth book, two novices to BDSM learn what turns them on, but their exploration turns explosive when a second man enters their Domination and submission games. Aaron’s Jewel, a BDSM novella featuring older protagonists, will release in September. Cris has given or received floggings, violet wand, spankings, power exchanges, and other elements of BDSM—all in the name of research. Her stories and blogs are laced with her personal observations and experiences. Her books consistently receive 5-star and recommended-read reviews.  In her spare time, Cris enjoys reading, gardening, cooking, piano playing, flogging and being flogged, the soft sound of rain dripping on the forest canopy, and of course, chocolate.

 

BDSM Writers Con, Doctor Charley Ferrer, kink, fetishes, bondage, BDSM education, dominance and submissionI met Cris Anson in 2012 when she attended my three-day BDSM for Writers Intensive. She returned in 2013 and I’m pleased to say, she’ll be attending again for the third year in a row. In 2014, Cris is not only attending, she will also be a presenter providing some wonderful information as well. Cris has shown a dedication to her writing craft that is admirable. Her passion and willingness to explore the life of Dominance and submission is inspiring. Then again, what’s there not to love ’s about BDSM or Cris Anson?

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Charley Ferrer

Dr. Charley Ferrer  Press PictureDr. Charley Ferrer is a world renowned Clinical Sexologist and the FIRST Latina Doctor of Human Sexuality in the United States. She is the award winning author of BDSM The Naked Truth, BDSM for Writers, and The W.I.S.E. Journal for the Sensual Woman, and several other books on sex and self-empowerment.

Doctor Charley hosted several award nominated TV shows including: Caliente with Dr. Charley Ferrer, the first bi-lingual show on relationships and sexuality nominated for Best TV Talk Show by BronxNet in New York City in 2007 and nominated for the Alliance Community Media—Best Northeast Region Award in 2008. Her television show was the inspiration several popular shows on sexuality. The Discovery Channel even approached her wanting information on her guests and contacts so they could create their show Taboo. Empress Charley & a slave

Doctor Charley is the founder and Executive Director of the Institute of Pleasure whose primary mission is to provide education on relationships, mental health services to women and men, and conduct research on sexuality.

In March 2013, she was the ONLY American-Latina Sexologist invited to speak before the Chinese Sexology Association. It was the first time China opened it’s doors to sexological collaboration with other countries. In March 2014, Dr. Charley Ferrer was hired to conduct sensual education and self-empowerment workshops for the women of China.

Doctor ChaBDSM FOR WRITERSrley is an advocate on sexual health and reform lecturing throughout the US and Latina America. She is a repeat speaker on sexual health and reform at the World Congress of Sexology and the International Congress of Medical Practitioners and Sexologist in Latin America. In July 2013, she was the only American Sexologist to be invited to speak before the populace of Falcon Venezuela. This was her third invitation to speak in Venezuela. In 2005 and 2008, she presented several lectures to physicians and mental health workers on the need to educate themselves on the special needs to alternative lifestyle practitioners.

Doctor Charley’s advocacy on sexual health, pleasure, and alternative lifestyles has earned her the reputation as a pioneer in sexuality. She has been dubbed America’s BDSM Expert for her relentless education efforts related to Dominance and submission and alternative lifestyles throughout the world; using various educational mediums such books, workshops, podcast, online workshops, and for 2014 BDSM Writers Con.

Doctor Charley has hosted several radio talk shows in both English and Spanish. She is highly sought after as the Sex Expert on several syndicated Radio & TV shows including Kiss FM–the Michael Baisden Show, Univision, and more.

Sex Unlimited by Dr. Charley FerrerNo stranger to the media, Doctor Charley has been featured in several magazines including: The New York Times, Cosmo, Marie Claire, Forum, Men’s Fitness and many more. As a freelance writer, her work has appeared in various local and international newspapers, magazines and websites including El Diario La Prensa, Latina Magazine, and Fox News Latino just to name a few.

Doctor Charley conducts various self-empowerment and educational speaking engagements at Universities, Hospitals, CDC events, as well as private and non-profit organizations throughout the United States and Latin America. She has been an Adjunct Professor at Rutgers University, Centralia Community College, and lecturing professor in many others.

She is the founder and Executive Director of the Institute of Pleasure whose primary mission is to provide education on relationships, mental health services to women and men, and conduct research on sexuality. Doctor Charley is a repeat speaker on sexual health and reform at the World Congress of Sexology and the International Congress of Medical Practitioners and Sexologist in Latin America. She’s also spoken before the Chinese Sexology Association in 2013.

She was recognized as one of the Groundbreaking Latina in 2006 for her work in Sex Education & Health.

To schedule an interview or to have her as a guest speaker at your event, please contact BDSM The Naked Truth 2nd Editionus. For immediate responses call: (718) 916-4124

Books by Dr. Charley Ferrer
The Latina Kama Sutra
The W.I.S.E. Journal for the Sensual Woman
The Passionate Latina: In Our Own Words
Sex con Sabor Latina (A play)
BDSM The Naked Truth
BDSM for Writers

In Spanish
La Latina Kama Sutra
Para La Mujer Sensual

Coming Soon
30 Shades of Kink
Sexploring: 30-Days to a Better Sex Life
Body & Soul: An Intimate Look at African-American Men’s Sexuality
Sex Repairs: For Women The Latin Lover: The Truth About Religion, Sex, & Machismo

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Dr. Charley Ferrer is the Host & Founder of BDSM Writers Con